When I was a young Scout there was no better moment at Courts of Honor than being able to pin the “Mom’s” pin on my Mom. Having earned a rank and being able to share that with Mom was a special thing. Today the “Mom’s Pin” is called the Parent Pin, and I suppose that is a relection on the times that we live in. Everyone must be included and in many cases Mom or Dad may not be in the picture. When I was a Cub Scout we lived in an apartment building. My Den was made up from the boys that lived on the 8th and 9th floors pretty much and we met in someones apartment (ours). My Mom was our Den Mother and she had a few ladies that helped out. It was always fun to wear our uniforms to school and then come home for Scouts, and the gang I hung out with were all great friends. We were close as you can get and Scouting was not really a once a week activity. We lived with each other, played, ran, and went to School with one another. And our Parents were all friends too.
I never knew what divorce was until I got into High School, and even then it was rare. My best friends parents divorced, but were remarried, so he still had a mom and a dad, so it all seemed “Normal” to me. When I became a Cubmaster, I noticed at parent meetings that there was always drama about sharing time with the kids or who’s dropping off little Timmy, or “It’s my Dad’s weekend to have me, so I can’t go on the outing”. Moving up to Boy Scouts was much the same, but at least the Scouts were older so they could just be dropped off and picked up. But it really hits me at Courts of Honor. When I see our Scouts that are torn between sitting with Mom or Dad, and who gets the pin? the struggle that is forced on the 10 and half year old boy as he stands in front of the crowd and is asked to place the parent pin on … I see the confusion in their faces and the angst of their little bodies as they turn to one parent or the other. 9 times out of 10 though.. the pin goes on Mom.
There is still something special about that pin going on Mom. Sure Dads help and guide that young man, but at the end of the day we all just want to be able to pin that pin on Mom.
I am a product of a set of parents that celebrated their 46 wedding anniversary on Friday. I know nothing else. My kids know that my wife and I have been married for 19 years and that their Grandparents (all 4 of them) have been together since the beginning of time. I enjoy the fact that I never have to see that worry, confusion, or troubled look on my two sons as they turn to pin on the “Mom’s Pin”.
To all the Mom’s out there… HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!
Have a Great Scouting Day!