It’s that time of the year.. Graduation season. And in a lot of cases, it’s Eagle Scout season too as the young man becomes motivated by his up coming 18th Birthday. So Congratulations to all the Grads and New Eagle Scouts this year.
Thursday night I attended the graduation ceremony of my nephew. He is also our Troops newest Eagle Scout. As we sat in the coliseum waiting for the graduation to start, I took a look at the program. In it was a list of the graduates of the Gresham High School Class of 2014. Quickly my eyes moved to find Lucas’s name, but as I scanned the page my eyes caught other names. Jacob P, James P, Jeffery D, Jake R… These were all Scouts that have been in our Troop. Over time some of them lost interest, had other obligations, and even earned their Eagle award and still participate. There were other names of young men that I know from other Troops in our area. I have watched them grow through the Order of the Arrow and other Scouting activities. As I looked over the names I found them in the crowd. They are all grown up.
After the graduation was over I went looking for these guys to wish them well and congratulate them. For some it was the first time I had seen them in a while, for others we talk regularly. The common thought that ran through my mind was how grown up they all looked on Thursday night. Reflecting back on when they crossed over into the Troop, their first camp outs and some of the funny things they had done to bring a spark in our Troop. Then the question repeated over and over again through out the crowd was, “What are they going to do now?”, “Where do you go from here?”
Some are going off to college in the fall, some are going to trade schools. Some are heading into the Service, and some still are kind of undecided. On the list of names was a list of the Scholarships and the graduates that are receiving them. I was pleased to see that our guys are doing well. Everyone of the Scouts from our Troop are going on to do something that they have passion for and will better themselves. Jacob was the big surprise of the evening. I have not seen him in some time. He is a young man who has always had a rough go, a tough family situation, and the chips never seemed to fall in his favor. He is going to college in the fall and received a Scholarship that will help him see his dreams come true. I spoke with him briefly after graduation. He said he was sorry that he did not stay in Scouting. I explained to him that I understood. He then told me that the reason he is the person he is today is because of the time he spent in our Troop. Not the rank or merit badges, but the life lessons and skills that he learned. The way to be a man and live a life of Character. He asked if he was allowed to hug me, I said yes. We parted ways with a smile and a promise that I will be there when he graduates from college.
Where do they go from here?
My youngest son is graduating also this year. Thursday night of this coming week. Josh spent many years in our Troop also and had to make a choice to play Football or stay in Scouts. He picked Football, but not until he and I talked and looked at his dreams. Josh has had the dream of playing in the NFL since he was in 3rd grade. He set his goals high and worked hard. He would throw that football for hours working on accuracy. Then as he grew he got faster, stronger, and more knowledgeable about the game. He understood the steps to getting to the NFL. High School football, College football, get his degree, and never stop getting better.
He played every down in 3rd, 4th, and 5th grades and then won the starting job in Middle School. As a Freshman he started at Quarterback on the Freshman team and was the 3rd string QB on the Varsity team. His Sophomore year he became the starting Quarterback of the Varsity team and played in the position until the last snap of his Senior year. College Scouts looked at him, recruited him, and he knew that his dream was going to come true. It’s just a matter of where. Southern Oregon University finally offered him a Red Shirt QB position on the team. But with it comes no guarantee that he will play. If you do not play, you do not get better and you do not get seen. The College of the Redwoods had been watching Josh and gave him an offer to actually play. He took it. Josh will be playing Football in College starting this year.
Determination, Patience, and a strong work ethic drove him to seeing his dreams come true. Step by step he is making his dreams a reality.
This has been a long and hard road for him and our family. Thousands of miles on the road to camps and college visits. Thousands of dollars in fees, hotels, and gas for the truck. It is has taken time and energy, pain and lots of tears. But in the end, it is all coming alive the way he wants it.
I was told once by a mentor of mine, that the job of a Dad (among other jobs) is to make our kids dreams come true. My oldest Son is serving in the Army. Little did we know that he always had a vision of serving and doing great things in the Military. My example and teaching him over the year that he grew up the son of a Sergeant Major lead him to success in finding his path. I still want him to go to college, and would love for him to be home, but I know that he is finding his way.. his way.
Our Daughter is going to college to ultimately serve in the area of Childhood development. I am so proud of this kind-hearted, sweet young women. She is blossoming into beautiful young lady with a heart of gold.
When I look at the young men that come through our Troop, I wonder, where do they go from here. Have we done everything we can to prepare them. Do they know that life does not hand out participation ribbons and at times it is very difficult to navigate the challenges.
My Scouts and My kids have shown me those answers. Character, Determination, and finding your dream is the key.
It does not matter where they go or how they get there. It is what they do with it once they arrive that I come to find out is most important.
They don’t all go to college, but have great lives. They don’t all make a million dollars, but are rich in their hearts and minds.
I am proud of all of them.
Congratulations to Lucas my nephew and Josh, my youngest Son! And Congratulations to all of the young men that passed through our Troop and are proving today that Scouting mattered in their lives.
Congratulations to the Class of 2014!
“So long as your desire to explore is greater than your desire to not screw up, you’re on the right track. A life oriented toward discovery is infinitely more rewarding than a life oriented toward not blowing it…Don’t be afraid of fear. Because it sharpens you, it challenges you, it makes you stronger; and when you run away from fear, you also run away from the opportunity to be your best possible self.” - Ed Helms, Commencement Address at Knox College 2013.
Have a Great Scouting Day!