Balance

swimming holeYesterday I was listening to some talk radio and over the course of the day the recurring theme of child raising came up.  I heard a fantastic quote on one of the programs that I thought needed to be shared here.
“We are not raising our children to be good children, we are raising them to be good adults.”
Yes, we are.  I think that much too often we focus on keeping our kids children and not looking to the future and what kind of adults they are going to be.
There is a balance there.  A balance between keeping our kids in a safety bubble and letting them run wild.  Finding the middle ground and ensuring we teach them the right skills to negotiate life is where we will develop them to be those good adults that we wish them to be.
It is for this reason that we focus on Citizenship, Character, and Fitness in Scouting and not cranking out Eagle Scouts.  While there are certain rewards for earning the rank of Eagle Scout is far more important that we see in our Scouts that development of Character.  An Eagle Scout without Character does himself and Scouting a disservice.
I am not sure when things went wrong and I certainly do not want to sound like those folks did when we were growing up, you know… walking to School in the snow up hill.. both ways…  Life was not rough when I grew up, and life is no rougher now.  The difference was in our parents then I think.  We stayed out till the street lights came on, we played outside all the time, bumps and bruises were part of life.  Now we did have a lot less distractions then.   We did not have 700 channels on TV, there was no such thing as the internet or cell phones, and once you mastered Pong on the Atari it was time to get back outside.
Our parents may have worried about us, but knew that we would be home when it was time to come home, or when we got hungry.. which ever came first.
I think our parents understood balance.  They understood that we needed to have quiet time and we needed to have loud time.  We did not sit in time out… we got spanked and it was over.  We learned lessons and moved on.
Fighting and making up was a part of being friends.  No drama, just growing up.
Our bikes were made of parts and I don’t think you could find two of the same color.  We made tree forts and fell out of them more times than I can count.  But my mom did not put me in a bubble and make every bad thing in the world disappear.
Balance.  We can place our sons in a bubble and protect them, or we can let them learn about the world by living in it.  I prefer living, knowing boundaries, and getting out there in life’s great adventure.  That is how we raised our kids and they all turned out to be good adults.
We are not raising children to be children, we have enough adults in the world that act that way.  This is why we have adults in the world that still wait for a hand out.  That is why we have adults that are immature and live for the drama of a teenager.  Just look at Facebook at what adults do on it.
We need to raise our young men to be men.
Finding a good balance and watching them develop.
Thoughts?
Have a Great Scouting Day! 

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7 thoughts on “Balance

  1. Ken Broad

    The street lights comment is a fond memory of childhood. It reminded me of warm summer nights and trying to squeeze just one more round of hide and seek or kick the can in before we called it a night. Then of course there was always a difference of opinions with my mom about if the lights were “on” or “sorta on”. Given the sub-arctic weather here lately it was a nice memory! Thanks!

    I once read that BP started Scouting because he felt that the youth of his time were unprepared for the tasks they would face as adults. I like to think that we (Scouting) have helped change that thought and that Scouting youth are our future leaders today. As you have quoted here before – Train them, trust them, let them lead.

    • It’s a shame that too many of our youth are being robbed of some of those experiences and memories. The generation of mommy coddled boys is growing a generation of unprepared men.
      Thanks for the comment.

  2. SM Curtis

    SM Jerry, You are spot on.

  3. Sam Dunkin

    Huzzah, huzzah!

  4. The main point for me is model what you want for the scouts. Untrained leaders get untrained youth.

    • Your main point is a good one.. Expecting more from our youth is important, they are growing up in a world that expects less from them and as a result we get less. Our youth have more in them and they need to know that and express it.
      Thanks for the comment Adam.

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