What are you getting?

joshTribOn the eve of my youngest son departing for college it is once again a time to think back on the past 18 years watching him grow into this great young man.  I can’t help but think about getting the most out of life when I think about Josh’s childhood and so it reminds me of the life lessons I have shared with him and lessons that I have shared with our Scouts.
I have always said that you get out of something what you put into it.  You get out of Scouts what you put into it, you get out of life what you put into it.
Josh is heading to college not just to get an education, but to live a dream.  Ever since he was old enough to hold a Football he has held on to the dream of playing at the next level.  Which ever level that is.  When he was in youth league it was Middle School Football.  Then it was High School Football and making the Varsity team.  Then it was College.
He has put in more effort to reach his goals than most teenagers put effort into anything in their lives.  And what he will get out of it will be living his dream.
The other day we had a discussion about the 4% of the Scouts that join Scouting that earn the Eagle Award.  The effort that they put into Scouting ultimately pays off in the award.  A lack of effort or desire will produce just that.  Some will fall short of the Eagle award, not due to lack of effort but drive or motivation.  They have a great experience, but fail to make it to their goal, unless the experience is the goal.
But we know for sure that you get out of life what you put into it.  Life is not unfair, it simply rewards people who make a choice to do more.  A lack of effort in life will result in not being a success.  Put more effort in, get more out.
One thing that I love about Josh’s story is that it reinforces the idea of “No excuses”.  I have watched as coaches over the years have asked the players what they want.  Results or excuses?  You can’t have both.  Put more effort into results and you will find success.  Put more effort into excuses and you get nothing.  Josh has embraced that attitude when it comes to everything in his life.
The couple of months before his 18th Birthday it was clear he would not be earning his Eagle award.  We talked and he asked if I was disappointed in him.  No I told him.  He had to make a choice and he decided on Football.  This was after a great summer of college visits, college recruiting trips, letters from schools, and the single best season of his life.  Not to mention the leadership he was showing in his Senior class, good grades, and enjoying every moment of his last year in High School.  He had put in the effort and was seeing the rewards ahead.  It is a Father’s job to help his kids dreams come true and Josh is seeing it all become real.
This weekend I spent a little time working on wrapping up summer camp, our big backpack trek, planning.  I looked at the list of Scouts attending versus the list of Scouts not going.  It reinforced the idea of what do our Scouts get out of Scouting.  If they are here to get a lot of merit badges and rank, that’s what they will get.  Anyone can earn merit badges.  The experiences, the mountain top shared experiences that can only be found seeking new adventures, the life lessons and skills, those can’t be found in the merit badge program.  They don’t require the effort, they don’t require the skills and shared trial that comes with living within the Patrol, Crew or Team.  They are what they are, but at the end of the day, they are not going to get you what you really want out of Scouting or life.  They are not what you will look back on and remember as the thing that kept you moving toward your goal.  They are not what you will see as real effort that led to reward.
So tonight we load up the truck and get ready to head South to move Josh into the next level, the next chapter of his life.  As he looks back on the last four years, it was not the games lost or won, it is not the merit badges or rank he earned in Scouts.  It is the experiences.  The friends, team mates, patrol members.  It is great seasons on the grid iron.  It is a trip to the National Jamboree.  It is the leadership he showed and experiences he shared.  It is the dream he is chasing and the reality of it coming true.
I am Proud of him.  Not just because he is my son, but because he is a good man of character.  He works hard, plays hard, and is full of life.
Ask yourself, what are you getting out of life?  If it’s not a lot… you are not trying hard enough.
Have a Great Scouting Day!

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Independence

DOIToday is Independence Day.
As you may have noticed I have not been blogging since about mid month in June.  For reasons that I think, looking back are real silly.  I found myself in a bad place when it came to my internet presence.   Lately I have been really upset with the way my Country is going.  The issues to many to note, and I really would rather move on, but needless to say it has put in my in a dark place as far as blogging goes.  I did not want to spread that “negative” vibe here on the blog.  I was even commented to on Facebook from a follower of the blog that he would rather read the blog and it’s “wisdom” than the stuff I have been sharing on Facebook.  And Larry, I concur.  And so it is Independence Day.  A day that we celebrate the Birth of a Nation.. our Country.  The day that brave men stood up and pledged their Sacred Honor to remain Free.
Today, I am getting back in the saddle and being Independent.  Free.  I am making the choice not to allow politics to derail this great blog that I love so much.
I enjoy writing and sharing my thoughts with you.  I took a look back though at the month of June.  I could see the posts that really showed the trend of me heading into the political rabbit hole.
I am a conservative.  I love Liberty and Freedom and have and will stand up to defend it.  But this blog is about Scouting, Adventure, Leadership, and fun.  There is no room for politics here.

Independence Day!
Not politics… Independence and celebration of America!  I love this Country!
Today, as they have done for years, the Congress of the United States will read aloud the document that created our Independence.  the Declaration of Independence.  I think it is important to remember the pins and needles that those men must have been sitting on when they signed their names to a paper that at the time meant treason.  Their lives and fortunes lay in the balance.
I am proud of that American spirit and willingness to stand up for something that we believe in.
That spirit continues today in the heart of America.  We may disagree, but that is our right and the right of free men to express their thoughts, their desires, and safeguard their home.
Happy Birthday America!
God Bless you.
“We, therefore, the Representatives of the united States of America, in General Congress, Assembled, appealing to the Supreme Judge of the world for the rectitude of our intentions, do, in the Name, and by Authority of the good People of these Colonies, solemnly publish and declare, That these United Colonies are, and of Right ought to be Free and Independent States; that they are Absolved from all Allegiance to the British Crown, and that all political connection between them and the State of Great Britain, is and ought to be totally dissolved; and that as Free and Independent States, they have full Power to levy War, conclude Peace, contract Alliances, establish Commerce, and to do all other Acts and Things which Independent States may of right do. And for the support of this Declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of divine Providence, we mutually pledge to each other our Lives, our Fortunes and our sacred Honor.” -from the last paragraph of the Declaration of Independence.  July 4th, 1776

Have a Great Scouting Day!

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Alter your Thinking

IMG_2625I suppose this year has just been one of those times of reflection.  With our youngest son graduating from high school and getting ready to move away to college, our oldest son across the country in the Army and our daughter hitting the books in college, this year has really provided opportunities to reflect.
A look back at the last 20 years of fatherhood, 22 years of marriage, the ending of an Army career and getting closer to my 50th birthday has been wonderful, scary, and eye-opening.
I think that as I grow older and maybe a little wiser I tend to look at things a bit different and find myself looking for answers or solutions to some of the problems I see around me.  I have no hope for our political issues and see no fix in the near future and so I am focusing my energy on that which I can have an impact on.  The things, people, and places that I can touch and make a difference at and to.
One of the biggest problems that has been weighing on my mind lately is our young men.  Not my sons, but a collective of our young men that we are in contact with.  I try to understand them and learn as to what makes them tick.  What motivates them?  What gets them out of bed in the morning?  What is it that they will contribute to our community?
In looking at them it dawned on me that we have some serious issues with them just becoming men.
We as a nation are not letting them grow up to be men.  In Scouting we constantly talk about Character, but what about manliness?  What makes them men?
In thinking on this I am trying to define what that means or looks like.
Rugged?  Well, it does not have to mean that.  Self reliant?  That is a big issue.  Courteous and Kind.  Hard working.  Providers, hunter gatherers.
My Dad showed me what it is to be a man.  He showed me how to love his family, protect them and care for them.  He taught me to be a provider and never to let them down.  He showed me the value of working hard and being rewarded for hard work.  He demonstrated to me determination and applying yourself to get what you want.  He taught me how to compete and be a good sport.  He showed me how to be a faithful husband and loving dad.
There are many traits of being a man who I think get lost when a young man does not have that man to show them.  And then it was clear.  We are missing men… Dad’s.
I grew up in a generation that won’t be labeled great or unique.  My generation learned from parents that by and large stayed together.  The guys I grew up with were pretty much the same.  I grew up an Army Brat.  Moved every three years and learned to make new friends annually.  The guys I grew up with had Dad’s that went away to Vietnam.  We were all about 1-year-old when our Dad’s went away and left us with Mom.  Mom was still there when Dad got back.  We were Army families.  Everyone I knew had a Mom and a Dad.  I did not know divorced people.  It was not till I became a Cubmaster that I was introduced to my first single parent.  That was 15 years ago.  This revelation was mind numbing for me.  It was something that I did not understand.  Parents are just supposed to stay together.  My parents are still together after 48 years, why can’t other people make that kind of commitment?
Marriage is disposable these days and it is criminal to me.  I do not believe in “irreconcilable differences”.  If you have problems, work them out.  “For better or for worse” that was the promise I made 22 years ago and I intend to keep it.  Our marriage has not been all peaches and cream, but neither is life.  It takes work to make it work.  It takes an altering of thinking to change the result.  Our society needs to alter its thinking on the casual nature of marriage.
Being husband and wife is not a flavor of the month and when you introduce children to the equation it ramps the intensity of the commitment to another level.
This attitude of disposable relationships I feel is the single biggest issue in boys not becoming good men.  As much as I value Mom’s, they can not be Dad’s.
Dad’s make men when they are engaged in their lives and serve their son’s as a teacher and mentor.  Not a buddy, but a parent that teaches manliness.
A Dad that teaches his son to respect women.  Teaches the value of family and the importance of keeping the family together.  Passing on tradition and culture.  Teaching that values drive Character and that you do what you value.
This is manliness and it is being missed on a generation that is growing up in a world that does not value hard work and reward.  Where mediocre is ok and that government is more important than family.  That there is always a safety net and that skills and education are not as important as learning systems.  A world that punishes risk taking and praises just going along.  A world that rewards the individual as long as everyone else is rewarded to.
We need to alter that thinking.
We need to reward achievement and hard work.  We need to praise Dad’s that stick it out and raise good young men.  We need to frown on the disintegration of marriage and the promises that come with committing oneself to another.  We need to alter our thinking from an attitude of what’s in it for me to what is in it for us.  We need to stop being selfish and think about someone else for a change.  Think about those young men that will be rudderless men in the very near future if we do not alter our thinking.
In talking with my 20 year son on Sunday over the phone I could not help but listen to him as we talked about his life in the Army.  The lessons he learned at home that are making him a success in life now.
Then sitting on the bed with my youngest son making plans to pack up his stuff to get ready to move to college.  The knowledge that he will do well because of the solid foundation of values and skills he has to go and be a man.
Looking back over this last couple months taking a deep look at the past and then a glance to the future I am left with the satisfaction that my wife and I have done well.  At the same time I fear for the future of the young men of our community and beyond.  Unless we alter our thinking, we will set them up to fail.
We need to make them men.
What are you doing to make a difference?
Have a Great Scouting Day!

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Let me tell you about my week…

joshgradIt started like most weeks, a Troop meeting on Monday night then the rest of the week was all about my youngest son’s High School Graduation from Reynolds High School in Troutdale, Oregon.  You may have heard about our little town.
Troutdale sits at the confluence of the Sandy and Columbia rivers.  The town was founded back in 1792 by Lt. Broughton and his men.  There is a bluff named after him that over looks the town.  The City of Troutdale was not incorporated till 1907 though and was a stop on the way to Portland along the rail that made its way through the famous Columbia River Gorge.
We have two Elementary Schools, one Middle School, and one High School in the City of Troutdale.  The High School serves a big chunk of East Multnomah County (all the way into Portland) and is the second largest High School in the State of Oregon.
You may have heard of the High Schools fantastic Music program, vocational education, and center for advanced learning.  Or maybe you know of Reynolds High School because of its great Arts and Communication Center.  It is a state of the art complex.  It may be the outstanding athletics of Reynolds High.  If you are a part of our community you would know of lots of great things that happen at our High School.  Instead you know of a shooting.  5 rounds fired, two students dead, one was the student that did the shooting, one teacher grazed, an entire community in shock.
That’s what you know about our High School.
That was Tuesday.
Wednesday, hair cuts and party preparations for Josh’s graduation.
Thursday, Lunch with the family at a nice Italian place in downtown Troutdale then off to graduation.  Very great to watch these young men and women cross over into adulthood with their High School diplomas.  I have known so many of these kids since they were toddlers.  It is great to see how grown up they are.
Speeches about adversity and learning from life’s hardships, your standard commencement speeches and then off to chaperon the Senior All night Party.  A super fun night playing games out at Bull Winkles Fun Center.  Had a Ball.
Friday was all about preparations for the big party Saturday.  Friday we had a birthday party for my niece.
Saturday the big party.  Cooked 85 servings of chicken, all prepared in the dutch ovens and all of the fixings.  Great turn out and a fun party.
Sunday (the day of rest) I was awakened by a phone call from my son serving in the Army.  Just a father’s day greeting and we talked for an hour.  Next hour on the phone with my dad, then off to clean up the last stuff from the party.
A great Fathers day dessert with Dad and family and now time to relax.
Sorry if I didn’t blog this week… You can see why.
What I know for sure.
The media will turn corn flakes into a circus.  I will not take anything away from the tragic loss of the families involved in the shooting in school gym.  I pray for them and recognize their pain.  But enough already with the media looking for a story that is not there.  They made the graduation a complete circus and it made a lot of the families there that wanted to celebrate their son or daughters achievement second to an event that no one can do anything about now a circus and they were not pleased.  It’s done, over, and hopefully will not happen again.
I will not debate any of the issues that hover around this.  I have my opinions and will not turn my blog into that circus.
Thursday was my sons day.  It was the culmination of a lot of hard work and the results of four great years and a positive High School experience.  One shooting will not ruin that for him.  Again, not to take anything away from the families, but someone is shot in Portland every day.. never makes the news.
It made out week, a week that was all about the Seniors an emotional roller coaster, but in the end, the Seniors showed that this would not define their high school story.  They partied and had an awesome celebration of their lives and their futures.  I applaud them for that.
Here was else I know for sure.
Life is short.  Hug you kids every day and then hug them some more.  Love them and teach them to love.  Be an example of Character to your kids.  Know who your kids are and share in their lives.  You need not be their buddy, you need to be their parent.
Volunteer at the School.  Know the School and what your kids do there.  Be apart of their education.  Teachers can not do it alone.
Help your kids be successful.  Know that when they fail they need a hand to get back up.
Have dinner together, even if it’s not at the table.
Talk to your kids, know them, and love them.
What a hell of a week.  Glad tomorrow is Monday and we can do it all over again.
Have a Great Scouting Day!

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I’m Calling you out!

hoseAt our Troop meeting last night we got into a good discussion about “kids these days”.  I contend that the kids are no different, they are still kids.  The world is the same.  It still spins and the sun rises in the East and sets in the West.
I know that all of you have seen those posts on Facebook, you know the ones that say something like;
If you remember drinking from a hose, playing outside till the street lights came on, playing Cowboys and Indians, having dirt clod fights, standing on the swing set, getting a bloody nose because you spun on the merry-go-round to fast, than you are were part of this or that generation..  Hit like and Share.. you know… that post.
Well, who is it that posts and shares that.  WE DO.  We, the adults that are raising kids today.  SO…
I’m calling you out.
The world has not changed.. WE DID.  We got soft and now won’t let our kids do what we did… but we find comfort in sharing that hypocritical garbage on Facebook.
LET YOUR BOYS BE BOYS or stop posting that stuff.
We got into a discussion about “The Greatest Generation” the other day.  What made them great.  The world at that time was a scary place.  We came out of worse economic times, a World War and then another one.  We saw mass murder and a generation of young Americans scared for life by what they experienced in their war.
I contend that this generation should be the Greater.  But we will not let them.
We fill them full of pills, we hand our participation ribbons and try as hard as possible not to hurt their feelings.  We keep them in a bubble and never let them explore their world.  We set limits and boundaries and teach them to add by counting dots not numbers.  We preach that the world is their oyster but never let them get in the water.
We are hypocrites.  This generation will never be great because we won’t let them.
We send them off to fight in a war that no one wants to win.  What is the message.  I don’t care about politics.. we fight to win.. or don’t go.   Tyranny is Tyranny, Nazi or Taliban.. they are the same enemy so lets win, just like we did in 1945.  That winning helped shape the generation.
Let them drink from a hose and get skinned knees.  It only hurts for a while.
I once heard a Sergeant of mine tell us that “pain is temporary, being a loser is a life sentence.”  It comes done to the character of the generation.  WE are growing that generation and I find it unacceptable.
So.. what are we going to do about it.  Nothing.  We will hit like and maybe share… but at the end of the day, we will shelter, over protect, and dump a gallon of hand sanitizer on our sons and buy them a new video game.  What’s the worse thing that can happen there?
Crime is no worse, the woods are still the woods, creepy people are still out there as they always have been, and the world is not coming to an end any time soon.
I’m calling you out!  What are you going to do?
Have a Great Scouting Day!

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Habit of Service

goodturncoinDuring my recent Vigil Ordeal I had lots of time to sit and think.  Being a student of Baden Powell, thought about the book Aides to Scoutmastership.  Powell authored this book in 1920 and its contents hold true today.  Substitute King and Queen and some of the Victorian era language, and the message Baden Powell sent to Scoutmasters in 2014 is spot on.
During Vigil Ordeal I gave a lot of thought to the idea of service.  After all, this was the central focus of the Vigil. Learning about myself and finding that way in which I could be a leader in service.
When I got home I went to my copy of Aides to Scoutmastership and reread it knowing that our Founder would once again speak to me from its pages.
I stumbled on this passage that I will share in its entirety.  It speaks volumes as to our attitude of service and the importance of developing in our Scouts that habit of service.
When I was a Scout we had a little coin that we carried, it reminded us to “Do a Good Turn Daily”.  Once the good turn was done, the coin was transferred to the other pocket, and so it went one good turn after another.
I hope you find this passage as meaningful as I do.
TO ERADICATE SELFISHNESS – THE GOOD TURN HABIT
The Scouting practices tend in a practical way to educate the boy out of the groove of selfishness. Once he becomes charitable he is well on the way to overcome or to eradicate the danger of this habit.  The Promise that a Scout makes on joining has as its first point: “To do my duty to God.” Note that it does not say “To be loyal to God,” since this would merely be a state of mind, but to do something, which is the positive, active attitude.
The main method in the Boy Scout Movement is to give some form of positive training rather than merely to inculcate negative precepts, since the boy is always ready to do rather than to digest.
Therefore, we put into his activities the practice of Good Turns in his daily life as a foundation of future goodwill and helpfulness to others. The religious basis underlying this is common to all denominations, and we, therefore, interfere with the form of none.
The boy can then realize better that part of his “Duty to God” is to take care of and develop as a sacred trust those talents with which God has equipped him for his passage through this life; the body with its health and strength and reproductive powers to be used in God’s service; the mind with its wonderful reasoning, memory and appreciation, which place him above the animal world; and the soul, that bit of God which is within him-namely, Love, which can be developed and made stronger by continual expression and practice. Thus we teach him that to do his Duty to God means, not merely to lean on His kindness, but to do His will by practicing love towards one’s neighbor.
The curious thing is that this duty of Service for Others through Good Turns is the one to which Scouts rise with the fullest alacrity. On this seemingly small foundation (the giving up of small personal conveniences or pleasures in order to render service) is built the character of self-sacrifice for others.
Let me know what you think of this passage and share your ideas about growing an attitude of service in your Scouts.
Have a Great Scouting Day!

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Just a Quick note to the Blog Followers.

1450824_244807472343666_426054249_nI just hit ‘Publish’ on my latest post and thought that I needed to drop a quick note to all of the followers of the blog.
As you may have noticed, I went from daily posts to more random, less frequent posts lately.  There is no lack of interest or passion.  I am just busier than heck right now and the blog had to take a back seat.
As you should know if you have been following, our youngest Son, Josh is graduating from High School this week.  Now under normal circumstances that would mean family coming into town, parties and of course the graduation ceremony itself.
With Josh being recruited to play college football it has also meant long rides down to California where he will be attended college, time spent on the phone with coaches, getting him into the School, dorms etc.  Football players are required to take Summer term also as they are on campus practicing.  So we have gone from 0 to 60 in days.
I do not want to sound like I am complaining, but this process is not an easy one.
For Josh there was a lot of uncertainty as to where he would be going to School.  While his classmates all filled out college applications early in the year, most being accepted as early as April, Josh had to wait to see which college was going to take him to be on the football team.  In most cases this process can go right up to graduation.  We were luckier in that we had a month to get it all done.
In talking with other parents that are going through this and college coaches we have learned the reality is that there just are not a lot of Division 1 athletes out there.  You know the guys that you hear about on ESPN or go on to get full rides at Notre Dame.  There are thousands of high school football players that will never play another game after high school.  So between Div 1AA, II, III, NAIA, and JC there is a ton of competition for those limited roster spots.  It only takes a visit, an injury, or a phone call for everything to change at the last-minute of your high school life that will impact where you go, if you go, and what you will do next.
For us as a family this has been stressful and exciting at the same time.  Josh landed in a good spot.  Today, he is not a DIV 1 athlete, like most of the high school players around the nation.  That is reality, but his dream and opportunity live on and he has the chance of one day being that guy that made his dream come true.
So the blog has suffered a little in this period of transition as we have done what we can to move our son forward.
I am still working my blog ticket.. and it is coming along, slow but sure.
Thanks for your patience and your comments.
Thanks for hanging in there.
Thanks for coming back, again and again.
Have a Great Scouting Day!

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Where do they go from here?

gradsIt’s that time of the year.. Graduation season.  And in a lot of cases, it’s Eagle Scout season too as the young man becomes motivated by his up coming 18th Birthday.  So Congratulations to all the Grads and New Eagle Scouts this year.
Thursday night I attended the graduation ceremony of my nephew.  He is also our Troops newest Eagle Scout.  As we sat in the coliseum waiting for the graduation to start, I took a look at the program.  In it was a list of the graduates of the Gresham High School Class of 2014.  Quickly my eyes moved to find Lucas’s name, but as I scanned the page my eyes caught other names.  Jacob P, James P, Jeffery D, Jake R… These were all Scouts that have been in our Troop.  Over time some of them lost interest, had other obligations, and even earned their Eagle award and still participate.  There were other names of young men that I know from other Troops in our area.  I have watched them grow through the Order of the Arrow and other Scouting activities.  As I looked over the names I found them in the crowd.  They are all grown up.
After the graduation was over I went looking for these guys to wish them well and congratulate them.  For some it was the first time I had seen them in a while, for others we talk regularly.  The common thought that ran through my mind was how grown up they all looked on Thursday night.  Reflecting back on when they crossed over into the Troop, their first camp outs and some of the funny things they had done to bring a spark in our Troop.  Then the question repeated over and over again through out the crowd was, “What are they going to do now?”, “Where do you go from here?”
Some are going off to college in the fall, some are going to trade schools.  Some are heading into the Service, and some still are kind of undecided.  On the list of names was a list of the Scholarships and the graduates that are receiving them.  I was pleased to see that our guys are doing well.  Everyone of the Scouts from our Troop are going on to do something that they have passion for and will better themselves.  Jacob was the big surprise of the evening.  I have not seen him in some time.  He is a young man who has always had a rough go, a tough family situation, and the chips never seemed to fall in his favor.  He is going to college in the fall and received a Scholarship that will help him see his dreams come true.  I spoke with him briefly after graduation.  He said he was sorry that he did not stay in Scouting.  I explained to him that I understood.  He then told me that the reason he is the person he is today is because of the time he spent in our Troop.  Not the rank or merit badges, but the life lessons and skills that he learned.  The way to be a man and live a life of Character.  He asked if he was allowed to hug me, I said yes.  We parted ways with a smile and a promise that I will be there when he graduates from college.
Where do they go from here?
My youngest son is graduating also this year.  Thursday night of this coming week.  Josh spent many years in our Troop also and had to make a choice to play Football or stay in Scouts.  He picked Football, but not until he and I talked and looked at his dreams.  Josh has had the dream of playing in the NFL since he was in 3rd grade.  He set his goals high and worked hard.  He would throw that football for hours working on accuracy.  Then as he grew he got faster, stronger, and more knowledgeable about the game.  He understood the steps to getting to the NFL.  High School football, College football, get his degree, and never stop getting better.
He played every down in 3rd, 4th, and 5th grades and then won the starting job in Middle School.  As a Freshman he started at Quarterback on the Freshman team and was the 3rd string QB on the Varsity team.  His Sophomore year he became the starting Quarterback of the Varsity team and played in the position until the last snap of his Senior year.  College Scouts looked at him, recruited him, and he knew that his dream was going to come true.  It’s just a matter of where.  Southern Oregon University finally offered him a Red Shirt QB position on the team.  But with it comes no guarantee that he will play.  If you do not play, you do not get better and you do not get seen.  The College of the Redwoods had been watching Josh and gave him an offer to actually play.  He took it.  Josh will be playing Football in College starting this year.
Determination, Patience, and a strong work ethic drove him to seeing his dreams come true.  Step by step he is making his dreams a reality.
This has been a long and hard road for him and our family.  Thousands of miles on the road to camps and college visits.  Thousands of dollars in fees, hotels, and gas for the truck.  It is has taken time and energy, pain and lots of tears.  But in the end, it is all coming alive the way he wants it.
I was told once by a mentor of mine, that the job of a Dad (among other jobs) is to make our kids dreams come true.  My oldest Son is serving in the Army.  Little did we know that he always had a vision of serving and doing great things in the Military.  My example and teaching him over the year that he grew up the son of a Sergeant Major lead him to success in finding his path.  I still want him to go to college, and would love for him to be home, but I know that he is finding his way.. his way.
Our Daughter is going to college to ultimately serve in the area of Childhood development.  I am so proud of this kind-hearted, sweet young women.  She is blossoming into beautiful young lady with a heart of gold.
When I look at the young men that come through our Troop, I wonder, where do they go from here.  Have we done everything we can to prepare them.  Do they know that life does not hand out participation ribbons and at times it is very difficult to navigate the challenges.
My Scouts and My kids have shown me those answers.  Character, Determination, and finding your dream is the key.
It does not matter where they go or how they get there.  It is what they do with it once they arrive that I come to find out is most important.
They don’t all go to college, but have great lives.  They don’t all make a million dollars, but are rich in their hearts and minds.
I am proud of all of them.
Congratulations to Lucas my nephew and Josh, my youngest Son!  And Congratulations to all of the young men that passed through our Troop and are proving today that Scouting mattered in their lives.
Congratulations to the Class of 2014!
“So long as your desire to explore is greater than your desire to not screw up, you’re on the right track. A life oriented toward discovery is infinitely more rewarding than a life oriented toward not blowing it…Don’t be afraid of fear. Because it sharpens you, it challenges you, it makes you stronger; and when you run away from fear, you also run away from the opportunity to be your best possible self.” - Ed Helms, Commencement Address at Knox College 2013.

Have a Great Scouting Day!

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Communicate for results

bullhornCommunicating effectively became crystal clear for me while I was a Student in the US Army Ranger School.  One minute you are chest deep in water slogging your way through a swamp and the next minute you are being told you are now the leader and you have 5 minutes to find out what the heck is going on.  A quick transfer of information from one leader to the next and you are off to complete the mission.  You learn right then how effectively the briefing was communicated to you and you learn even faster that the guy ahead of you did not pay attention.  You success or failure is now in the hands of a tired, hungry, wet, and miserable Ranger that you are trying to glean as much information out in 5 minutes.
What becomes indelibly marked in your brain is that the more ineffective, ambiguous, or unclear the communication, the more the follower must and will assume.
Assumption is never a good thing when a task is supposed to completed to a certain standard or completed the way in which the leader has seen in his vision.
That vision must be clearly shared and expressed in such a way that everyone has a clear understanding of what you want.  If it is not, they will assume and you will not get the results you are looking for.
As part of the leadership principles we teach our Scouts, Communicating effectively will reduce the amount of drama, conflict, and failed results that the Junior leader will have to endure.
The leader can make his life easier by starting with clear communication.  This is a skill that must be practiced over and over again.  It is imperative that the leader be given the chance to practice and fail if necessary to  develop good communication habits.
If you want results, you start with effective communication.  As an adult leader allowing ineffective communication from your youth leaders in unacceptable.  Teach, coach, train, and mentor them to better communication skills.  Allow them to make mistakes, but not make the mistakes the norm.
Every Scout has the ability to communicate effectively.  Styles may differ, but if they want to be successful, they need to develop good communication skills and use them.
Have a Great Scouting Day!

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Meet the new President

Allow me to share this video of our New National Scout President.  Dr. Robert Gates.
You know his resume… so I will not share that.  I listened to this 27 minute speech given at the National Meetings with some interest.  I want to know what he is planning on doing to impact Scouting during his two-year term.
I had the pleasure of meeting with Rex Tillerson, the previous National President.  I thought he helped move Scouting forward.  I have great hope in what this new administration will do, especially after listening to this speech.
I really liked his closing.  I think he is spot on.
Enjoy.

Have a Great Scouting Day!

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